“A gentle response defuses anger,
but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.” Proverbs 15:1
Children act out and even scream at his or her mom–not so much at their dad who might rule with a heavier hand–and then wait for a response. I used to yell back at my kids. Bad mom. I wish I had memorized Proverbs 15 and used the gentler voice–the one a kid can’t hear unless they listened hard.
I picture Jesus as having had a soft voice. Oh, how I wish I could have walked with Jesus on a quiet green pasture listening to his every word. But one has to quiet the chatter in the mind before being able to listen. Jesus could raise his voice and temper when he encountered injustice or breaking God’s commandments. The money changers saw Jesus in action when he turned over the tables, spilling their coins everywhere.
My mother wasn’t one to yell or scream at us kids. To this day she speaks with a loving, gentle voice. I don’t believe I’ve ever seen her lose her temper, but a little disappointment on her face made us kids behave. I wish I could say I never lost my temper with my kids.
I’ve never had to raise my voice with my grandchildren because they are sweet and loving with me. I hope they won’t yell or scream at their own children someday. Anger can’t defuse anger, and sharp tongue bites hard.
Help us, Lord, to use a quiet voice when angry or upset. Amen.