It’s necessary for someone to be in the ‘driver’s seat,” but some people believe it is their responsibility to be in control of everything–a symptom of lack of self-control. In the Psycology.com, self control is described as “the ability to subdue our impulses to achieve longer-term goals.” It’s a mental “pause” before moving forward.
I am a candidate for chocoholics anonymous—a group that would probably be larger than many of the successful self-help groups. It is my “drug” of choice. I hear stories of people who get a box of chocolates for Christmas and eat the whole things within a couple of days. Fortunately for me, I’m not fond of chocolates with filling, so it might take me a week or two to eat a one-pound box of Whitman’s Samplers. However, I have little self-control over dark chocolate with almonds—such as a Hersey Kiss.
Jesus was a leader who knew how to get what he wanted from his disciples without being a control bully. He said, “Follow me and I’ll show you how.” (vs. 25) He didn’t simply say, “This how you do it,” he showed them the way to become a faithful follower. It would do me well if someone said, “Linda, there’s a way to avoid chocolate,” but I’d probably become addicted to whatever could replace chocolate.
Lord, help us gain self-control over our own lives. Amen.