“Appoint leaders in every town according to my instructions. As you select them, ask, “Is this man well-thought-of? Is he committed to his wife? Are his children believers? Do they respect him and stay out of trouble?” Titus 1:5-6
Apostle Paul left Titus, whom he called “his true son in our common faith” to complete the work he had begun—the important task of appointing a church leader with the characteristics of a solid faithful person and that his wife and children could pass the test too.
Today, in regards to the children of a candidate, and whether they are believers, respectful, and trouble free. It would be difficult to find a family who has not experience what society labels unaccepted behavior and children who are not active in the church. I would be disheartened if a leader being interviewed passed all the criteria, but was denied on the grounds he or she had a child who didn’t fit the mold.
Some people might say, “If a leader can’t keep the affairs of his own household in order, how could he pastor a flock of sinners?” Rick Warren, pastor or Saddleback Church in California and author of The Purpose Driven Life, and his wife experienced tragedy when their mentally ill son committed suicide. Warren didn’t go into seclusion or deny his pain, he used it to develop a new ministry regarding mental illness. That’s what strong God-fearing leaders do.
Dear Lord, give our church leaders and pastors a big dose of grace every day. Amen.