“Prevent fire—the fire of my anger—for once it starts it can’t be put out. Your wicked ways are fuel for the fire.” Jeremiah 4:4
My first child, Michael, was “all boy” and had a lot of energy that sometimes got him into trouble. He didn’t like hearing, “no” and would react with anger. When our second child, Karen, was born, he had a case of sibling rivalry, which I didn’t handle well. I have to admit when Michael was angry, I would get to the point where I acted like a child out of control also and would spank him.
One day my neighbor invited me to go with her to see a film series at her church by Dr. Dobson, called “The Strong Willed Child.” After the second film of the series, I told my friend, “That’s my child!” I finally understood my strong will had been fueling the anger in my son. The classes taught me to use Mike’s strong will as a tool. After all, children with a strong will often become very successful adults.
I regret not having had seen the film before I had children. It may have kept my “wicked ways” from fueling more anger in my son. But I am happy to say, I never spanked my daughters.
Dear Lord, help us refrain from dumping fuel on an angry person. Amen.