“Smart people know how to hold their tongue;
their grandeur is to forgive and forget.” Proverbs 19:11
Last night I watched the final show of “The Bachelor.” This is a crazy show in which one guy dates many women to find “true love.” Bachelor Ben had told the last two candidates that he loved them, which has never happened in the history of the show. After the final date with each woman, he chose Lauren. But before getting down on his knee and proposing, he had to tell JoJo she came in second. Once again he told her he loved her and then said, “but …” That’s when she knew he picked Lauren. She held her tongue and remained poised until escorted to the limo. It would have been more dramatic if she had blasted him for being a two-timer.
At the “after party,” JoJo asked Ben how he finally made his decision, and Ben said, “I couldn’t imagine living without Lauren.” Amazing, huh? At the moment, JoJo, without using the words, “forgive and forget” made it seem that she was at peace about Ben’s choice of a wife and has already moved on. And, why not… JoJo will be the next Bachelorette and will have her choice of a couple of dozen eligible bachelors to fall in love with.
Smart people know when to hold their tongues. It may keep them from digging themselves into a hole of hatred and more anger.
Help us, Lord, to discern when to hold our tongue and how to forgive and forget. Amen.