“Learn to love appropriately. You need to use your head and test your feelings so that your love is sincere and intelligent, not sentimental gush.” Philippians 1:9 (The Message Bible)
Paul wrote to his faithful friends in the City of Philippi that sometimes he felt as strongly about them as Christ did. I believe we try to please others by what we do and say so that we too will be loved as Paul loved his friends. Paul wanted them to know that love isn’t that simple—it takes practice to learn to love appropriately—to use your head and test your feelings to make sure it is sincere.
It is easier to love the “sentimental-gushy” way, such as when I was in junior high and had a crush on my girlfriend’s older brother (who probably didn’t know that I existed).
After finding a lasting love, I know that my first love was merely a fantasy and that having a dear friend who sometimes think as highly of me as God does, is a heavenly gift.
Dear Lord, I pray that you will show me how to love others more appropriately than just being gushy. Amen.