[Jesus told the Pharisees and scribes:] “And you say that if you had lived in the days of your ancestors, no blood would have been on your hands.” Matthew 23:29
In the above scenario in Matthew, Jesus didn’t buy the attempt of the Pharisees and scribes to justify their current bad behavior. He doesn’t accept the “only if” or “it was a mistake” pleas from us, either.
Personally, I don’t believe irresponsible behavior can be classified as a mistake. God gave us brains and the ability to make choices–to discern right from wrong. Sometimes we just screw up and need to pay the price or eat a big piece of humble pie and learn from the so-called mistake.
Ten years ago, when my husband and I spent a year in marriage therapy, there were times I behaved poorly (will not “bore” you with details). Some of the choices I made were hurtful, and yet in some ways, helpful. Yet, none of my action and choices were a so-called mistake. Some were intentional.The hurtful part resulted in forgiveness and a place to start over. And, the relationship tools we gathered during that year continue to be helpful in keeping our marriage out of divorce court!
Lord, give us the opportunity to learn and grow from the decisions and actions that affect ourselves and others. Amen.