“This is scary: You can tame a tiger, but you can’t tame a tongue—it’s never been done. The tongue runs wild, a wanton killer. With our tongues we bless God our Father; with the same tongues we curse the very men and women he made in his image. Curses and blessings out of the same mouth!” James 3:7-10
There are people who take pride in the ability to say what they mean no matter how ugly it comes out of their mouths, The “I don’t beat around the bush” mentality. They claim people know where they stand on issues, but what they don’t understand is that I, for one, would prefer to hear their opinions in a way that can create conversation and possible negotiations or consensus. I try to avoid spending time with people with this kind of ego.
I challenge people who “tell it like it is” to read the parables of Jesus and study his style of communicating. He did get angry; after all people provoked him just as people provoke us, but he didn’t let his ego rule how he talked to people.
In the book, Self-Compassion, the Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff, Ph.D., she states, “Why is so hard to admit when we step out of line, are rude, or act impatient? Because our ego feels so much better when we project our flaws and shortcomings onto someone else.”
Father, help us control our tongues so that it won’t destroy relationships. Amen.