“Man as such is smoke, woman as such is a mirage. Put them together, they’re nothing; two times nothing is nothing.”
I joke about how two halves don’t always make a whole. Unfortunately, some relationships work this way. Seven years ago when my husband and I were in marriage therapy, we studied the book “Getting the Love You Want” by Dr. Harville Hendrix. He presents relationship skills that help couples face problems in their marriage, by using a healing process of mutual growth and support. Through the exercises and learning tools, he helps “two halves make a whole,” instead of a hole to fall into and suffocate.
It might be a good idea for Hendrix’s book to be a prerequisite for obtaining a marriage license or a must-read for any couple anticipating a long-term relationship. Relationships used to be simple—at least in Adam and Eve’s day (as the only two in the Garden)—but with all the challenges faced by couples through work, financial stress, etc., plus the ease of getting a divorce, and the mentality of “it it’s broken, don’t fix it,” many relationships suffer a premature death.
Hendrix, our good Christian therapist, and a lot of prayer made Glen and me ( two halves) whole again. The hard work paid off—we’ll be celebrating our 47th wedding anniversary this fall – or, as we sometimes say, we’re celebrating our 7th year of reunification.
Dear God, give partnerships the tools it takes to help them stay in good relationship with one another, and you. Amen.